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How to Strengthen Your Muscles to Eliminate Incontinence

Strengthening pelvic muscles can help eliminate urinary incontinence in both men and women. Learn effective exercises and treatment options.

Kelly Brown Gross


woman lies down during checkup with physical therapist

Childbirth. Abdominal weakness. Diabetes. Prostate problems. There’s a long list of factors that can cause incontinence in women and men.

It’s a subject that’s very uncomfortable for people to talk about — even with a healthcare provider. But urinary incontinence is a widespread condition that, in most cases, can be cured with proper diagnosis and treatment. And treatment could be as easy as some exercises.

Urinary incontinence affects both women and men.

Incontinence affects women twice as much as men. But overactive bladder, bladder leakage and related issues can happen to anyone.

The most common cause of incontinence is trauma to the pelvic floor muscles. For women, that can happen after childbirth or even pregnancy. Also, menopause is a big factor for women because you lose some muscle mass. Men are more likely to develop urinary incontinence after having their prostate removed due to prostate cancer.

There are several different types of urinary incontinence. Stress incontinence and urge incontinence are the most common.

AnchorStress Incontinence

Any leakage of urine that’s preceded by increased pressure in your abdomen is due to stress incontinence. It could be a cough or a sneeze. Lifting something heavy, jumping and other physical activities can all lead to leaking urine if you have stress incontinence.

AnchorUrge Incontinence

Urge incontinence happens when there’s a muscle spasm or some sort of dysfunction in your bladder that causes a strong, sudden urge to urinate. Before you’re able to get to a toilet, you leak some urine.

AnchorMixed Incontinence

When you leak from both stressors and urges, you have mixed urinary incontinence. Women especially are likely to have a mix of bladder control problems causing their incontinence.

Incontinence isn’t the only bladder problem men and women face.

Urinary incontinence is a pretty obvious problem. Leakage is hard to miss. Two other common bladder issues may not seem like bigger health problems: urgency and frequency.

AnchorUrinary Urgency

You gotta go. And you gotta go right now. Urinary urgency is a strong, sudden urge to use the bathroom. You don’t get any warning and, all of a sudden, you have to run off to the restroom.

Urgency alone is a real bladder problem. When you have leakage along with it, that’s urge incontinence.

AnchorFrequent Urination

Frequency just means how often you’re going to the bathroom to urinate. Going anywhere between four and six — even up to eight times — in 24 hours is normal frequency. At night, you should be able to sleep through the night and get a good, solid eight hours without having to get up. But occasionally, you might have to get up once to pee.

If you’re within those ranges, it’s a signal of good bladder health. If you wake up more than once a night or are urinating more often than every two hours, that’s high frequency.

Physical therapy can cure your bladder control issues.

Physical therapy is a conservative treatment for urinary incontinence and other bladder issues. But it’s so much more than muscle strengthening. Muscle weakness may be a contributing cause to your problem, but most of the time it’s more about coordination and muscle imbalance. You may also have incorrect posture or tight, overly active muscles.

A physical therapist can figure out the underlying causes of your bladder problems. Our featured Physical Therapist, Kelly Brown Goss, is rated in the Top 4% in the nation for pelvic floor outcomes as ranked by Focus On Therapeutic Outcomes, Inc. (FOTO). You may benefit from relaxation techniques, behavior modification or bladder retraining exercises, especially if you have an overactive bladder or urge incontinence. You may need to strengthen your core, improve your posture or exercise muscles you didn’t even know you had!

The muscles around your hips and pelvis are very close in proximity to the pelvic floor — the muscles that actually control the flow of urine. You can actually get some carryover by strengthening your hips and pelvis.

The pelvic floor muscles themselves are deeper and harder to target through traditional strength training. Strengthening them isn’t as easy as picking up some weights. But doing pelvic floor exercises can help tone these muscles and prevent urinary incontinence. That’s done primarily with Kegels, and then combined with better coordination of the deep muscles that make up your inner core.

AnchorHow to Do Kegel Exercises Correctly

A Kegel is an active contraction of the pelvic floor and, if done regularly, can help you build stronger, thicker pelvic floor muscles. Despite different anatomy, Kegel exercises are the same for men as they are for women.

First, you have to find these muscles. Try stopping urination in midstream or holding back gas. That’s your pelvic floor at work. Then, lie down and repeat that movement to do a proper Kegel:

  • Squeeze and lift up your pelvic floor.
  • Hold the contraction for three seconds.
  • Relax your pelvic floor muscles fully for three seconds.

It’s easiest to lie down at first but you can do Kegels anytime and anywhere, whether you’re cooking a meal or sitting at the office. So, it should be easy to work two to three sets of 10 repetitions into your day. As your pelvic floor muscles get stronger, hold the contraction for longer until you’re able to do so for 10 seconds.

AnchorHow to Coordinate Your Inner Core Muscles

Once you’ve found your pelvic floor muscles and are able to activate them properly, it’s time to coordinate them with the rest of the inner core muscles. All of these muscles work together to manage pressure in your abdomen. And it all starts with diaphragmatic breathing, as the diaphragm and deep abdominal muscle are the other muscles that make up the inner core.

  1. While lying down, take a breath in, focusing on a gentle expansion of your lower ribcage and abdomen. As you do this, gently ‘let go’ of your Kegel.
  2. On the exhale, gently squeeze and lift your pelvic floor muscles as your abdomen and lower ribcage draw back in.
  3. Keep your breathing relaxed and quiet, making sure not to over engage the abdominal muscles.

With a regular routine of Kegels and diaphragmatic breathing, you can see results in a few weeks or months. And once you’ve mastered the contraction and coordination of your inner core, you can stop leakage from an unexpected urge or sudden sneeze.

Unfortunately, it’s not all cut and dried for everyone. Maybe you’ve tried Kegels and your symptoms haven’t improved or have gotten worse. Or you might not be completely cured of your incontinence and bladder issues.

If that’s the case, Kegels are probably not what your body needs and are not recommended. But other forms of pelvic physical therapy can help. Get an evaluation from a pelvic floor physical therapist to help you determine the proper exercises for your body. In 95 percent of the cases, a combination of pelvic floor physical therapy and Kegels makes a big difference, and you're on your way to better bladder control.

Kelly Brown Gross

KellyBrown Gross , PT

Kelly Brown Gross, PT, has been practicing with The Iowa Clinic since 2006. Kelly loves The Iowa Clinic because she gets to decide what is best for her patients, as well as the excellent work environment.

Kelly stepped in as the physical therapist for men's and women's pelvic health and very quickly realized how many people she could help in an area that is not widely known. She is a board-certified specialist who truly enjoys helping her patients get their lives back and live to the fullest.

In her free time, Kelly likes to hang out with her husband, Dave, and two sons. She can often be found cheering her kids on at their sporting events, and enjoys many outdoor activities — including golf, tennis, and running.